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Post by JeanLean on Jan 5, 2007 16:31:01 GMT 7
Hello everyone. I am so glad there's actually a forum for us AMAers. I found this forums and I thought maybe I might spark a discussion.
I know majority of you in this forum are guys but at the risk of freaking you guys out, I'll tell you about my problem.
My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me about a month ago. To be honest I am still not over him. He broke up with me because according to him, I wasn't being honest. He told me that I was too controlling and that he needed the space. So we broke up.
I was completely devastated because I couldn't seem to get a solid grasp of those things that supposedly tore us. None of those reasons seemed concrete and they sounded more like very lame excuses to me.
I've given him my everything he could ask for a girl (yes including THAT). He was my best friend and I don't know how to live without him. He knows my sercrets as well every inch of me. Everything just happened so fast. Still can remember two months ago, during our 2nd year anniversary. And now, I am torn apart.
However, last week, I was at school for enrollment. He was there and we talked casually. I was really trying my best not to cry. We didn't mention anything that happened. We just spent the day together and ended up in a motel that night. You should know what happened next.
The next day, a girl friend of mine told me that she overheard him and his friend talking. Apparently my ex was telling this friend of his how satisfied he was and that he really had no intention to reconcile with me. He only did it so he could have sex with me.
Numbness was the only thing I felt at that moment. Akala ko kami na ulit hindi pala.
My year started with a bang indeed.
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Post by Pervertfox 고 러 on Jan 5, 2007 23:32:55 GMT 7
oh hi jean.. and welcome to the forums.. ^_^
i hope you enjoy our company..
if what your friend said really is true then your ex is somebody not worth your time at all.. that type is the worst of what i can think of.. i think you should try moving on cause i think he wont change and just be a scum as he was... i know it would be hard but i think it's for the best.. technically if you reconciled it would still end the same way or maybe worst..
and if you want a better advice im asking you if only you want to we can stick this thread until a practical solution is made.. but only if you want to..
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Post by BloodRush on Jan 6, 2007 18:15:32 GMT 7
He only did it so he could have sex with me. LOL  Kidz these days.... wahahahahaha.... You are way too young to waste... life isn't supposed to be as complicated as you think. SEX is a NORM these days. The fact that you've given it to him should have come with the fact that you were letting go of it. Now if you regret losing your virginity. It's more your fault rather than that b@stard's. It is the last thing you should be concerned of. All women are bound to lose it. ALL is given the emphasis considering we are part of this generation. Yeah... your ex is a big jerk... that is why you should let him go. Actually, it is you who you should let go. The only one who can set you free is yourself. |
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Post by Pervertfox 고 러 on Jan 7, 2007 0:55:22 GMT 7
yeah jean she's(err..) right you know.. solutions most of the time are upon reach we just need to find it in ourselves... what others can give though is emotional support.. an invisible cradle for a falling heart... ^_^ something to laugh about: we can also give muscle power... if you want him tied up in a park or somethin... just joking... hahaha... dont think about the lost you got but focus on what you've learned... "not all are hyenas ready to rip you to shreds... some are passionate and lovable foxes.." "sometimes even the most dearest ally can be your worst enemy"... -adolf hitler >  ********* "rememver when you fall, cry a little(pretty much normal).. think of what happened.. remember on what they were.. stand up and continue to live... your foes would be rewarded more, if you gave up and never stood up.." |
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Post by JeanLean on Jan 8, 2007 14:14:41 GMT 7
LOL Kidz these days.... wahahahahaha.... This ain't no laughing matter. And you don't seem way older than me to say something like that. I was truly in love and based the way you were saying things, you don't seem to know how it feels. I am torn between letting go and fighting for love. I know this seems hopeless but, we all know that the brain and the heart are two different things. |
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Post by BloodRush on Jan 8, 2007 16:42:35 GMT 7
This ain't no laughing matter. Do you really have to flame it? Why not insert humour in every problem... I may be young but I am old enough to give opinions... and wasn't a good set opinions a thing you were after? I was truly in love and based the way you were saying things, you don't seem to know how it feels. I know perfectly how it feels to love and lose someone. I am (still) in love with my classmate whom I get to see everyday....talk to everyday. Seeing him with another girl (yeah that's right, I'm gay) rips me to shreds. I do my best to be as significant as possible in his life but I don't get (expect) anything in return. It's been going on for more than three years and I've been through hell juz to shake me off this senselessness. Still here I am for him even though whatever runs in my cerebrals are....... so f**cking impossible cuz... oh well... I am a guy. Love is not selfish. It expects nothing in return. If you are after reciprocation, then you'll need to reevaluate whatever you are feeling for him. But what makes us different? I don't whine in a corner feeling sorry for myself. I still do everything with finess... try me best to be happy with my life... I try to be strong. So hohum.... don't even think you are the only one suffering because of love in this world, sweet heart! One of those who drown themselves in sorrow??? Perhaps you are one of them and it's up to you how you're to deal with that dilemma. Like I said before... the only person who can truly help you right now is you. The process will be slow... hard... painfull... but we all know that medicine don't taste good, don't we? |
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Post by ghostface on Jan 8, 2007 18:29:24 GMT 7
what should you do? Well, it's easier said than done but you should forget about him.. First you should make a choice.. If you're willing to be stupid.. then keep doing what you do.. but if you think you've had enough.. just let go.. Forgetting is different from not wanting to remember.. Surely, it is so hard to forget but you can try not to think much about him.. learn to accept and let go.. In reality, it is not always a happily ever after.. My advice specifically, keep your self busy.. busy not in terms of work or any forms of labor.. be busy with things that you like to do.. Go party, shopping, anything that you've always wanted to do.. Also, keep your friends close.. It is always nice to have someone to talk to.. hmmmm.. what else?! ..oh, no love songs.. as in any.. when you're down, any love song will hit you.. and it hits hard.. do not pity yourself, you are a good and strong person.. remember, it is his lost.. not yours..  |
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Post by Pervertfox 고 러 on Jan 9, 2007 3:06:39 GMT 7
lets make this rather simple... im gonna state a few facts that would matter if anything happens... in case you two got together would you forget what your friend said.. The next day, a girl friend of mine told me that she overheard him and his friend talking. Apparently my ex was telling this friend of his how satisfied he was and that he really had no intention to reconcile with me. He only did it so he could have sex with me. it means that you would believe and forget bout: None of those reasons seemed concrete and they sounded more like very lame excuses to me. and admit that YOU weren't honest... would you think if you two reconciled this wouldnt be the reason.. He only did it so he could have sex with me. but still the only person who can truly help you right now is you. "the task of letting go wouldnt be easy and probably the most painful of all paths but its is the one that shows most promising..." -modified from prince of persia... "if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you its yours or it was just wasnt meant to be" -a quote I saw somewhere... i just cant remember where...  |
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Post by BloodRush on Jan 9, 2007 19:05:00 GMT 7
You know what I like to do when I am feeling down? I go to this local arcade and play a button smashing game that noobs or half brains can play. Games like Marvel vs. Capcom or Marvel vs. Street Fighter are nice because they have easy mode. So what I do is choose easy mode (even though I am a veteran street fighter LOLZ ;D) and convince everyone I am a noob. I grip the joystick tightly as if I am never gonna let go then glue my eyes on the screen. Make sure you have shades or something  . Then when the round begins I scream out loud in a very very very very gay way and spin the joystick like a twister ravaging the lands of bicol and slam the buttns randomly as if it's Mars being hit by meteors. Then I scream louder and people will surely start looking. MAKE SURE you do this with a friend who will say something like "Naku may nababaliw dito". And if you win (maybe cuz you pull off some insane air combos unintentionally), you laugh louder and stick ur tongue out but if you lose, cry  and kiss the first person who comes within a meter radius  . This is so fun you should do this while eating donuts whole Oh yeah... sad music won't help. I like Duncan Sheik's "On A High" or VitaMIn C's "I Ain't Got Nobody". Oh yeah "Juz Like I A Pill" is also great. And STAY AWAY from songs like "Never Get Over U Getting Over me" or "One Last Cry". Well, if you insist on listening to this songs, make sure you bring with you a nice 4 meter rope and a flimsy little chair. Juzzz kidding |
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Post by sharpangel on Jan 12, 2007 22:11:54 GMT 7
Hello everyone. I am so glad there's actually a forum for us AMAers. I found this forums and I thought maybe I might spark a discussion. I know majority of you in this forum are guys but at the risk of freaking you guys out, I'll tell you about my problem. My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me about a month ago. To be honest I am still not over him. He broke up with me because according to him, I wasn't being honest. He told me that I was too controlling and that he needed the space. So we broke up. I was completely devastated because I couldn't seem to get a solid grasp of those things that supposedly tore us. None of those reasons seemed concrete and they sounded more like very lame excuses to me. I've given him my everything he could ask for a girl (yes including THAT). He was my best friend and I don't know how to live without him. He knows my sercrets as well every inch of me. Everything just happened so fast. Still can remember two months ago, during our 2nd year anniversary. And now, I am torn apart. However, last week, I was at school for enrollment. He was there and we talked casually. I was really trying my best not to cry. We didn't mention anything that happened. We just spent the day together and ended up in a motel that night. You should know what happened next. The next day, a girl friend of mine told me that she overheard him and his friend talking. Apparently my ex was telling this friend of his how satisfied he was and that he really had no intention to reconcile with me. He only did it so he could have sex with me. Numbness was the only thing I felt at that moment. Akala ko kami na ulit hindi pala. My year started with a bang indeed.
Hi Jean and welcome to the forums!~ ;Dabout your problem.. yeah! "some" men are scum bagsstill... it is up to you if you tolerate those kind of behaviors. I agree, it's very hard to forget somebody that you love.. but if let that somebody exploit your weakness(in your case, how you're very passionate for him).. then the cycle will never stop. You will still end up in a point where you will be expecting him to take you back and end up crying/hurting. My point, sometimes people love to much... Just like sailing in the ocean... You end up in the same spotyou were before(the earth is round=p)... Here, I won't be telling you to forget about him cause it's only relative when you follow our advice. Follow my friend's advices and mine.. keep yourself busy with what really matters.. FAMILY, FRIENDS AND STUDIES. Sabi nga ng isa jan mag window shopping ka, try a sport, or humawak ka ng gamepads sa local arcade with your friends(advice: don't glue your hand to it=P)... Believe me there are lots of things to do.. In my case, whenever I get frustrated, I play table tennis or just run rounds around the amoranto stadium oval.. yun tipong wala ka nang hininga... until things seem very black.. and then when evertything settles down, you will think... Life sucks! but still there are people that make it wortheit.. mama, papa, mga totoong kaibigan.. Cheer up! Everybody is destined for somebody... don't mush around the dirty bush when you can move freely in the open field. ayt?! ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by ~enelrahc~ on Jan 15, 2007 9:47:07 GMT 7
Yeah, letting go is the best part.. stop feeling sorry for yourself.. it won't get you anywhere
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Post by frack on Jan 24, 2007 15:31:20 GMT 7
Hello everyone. I am so glad there's actually a forum for us AMAers. I found this forums and I thought maybe I might spark a discussion. I know majority of you in this forum are guys but at the risk of freaking you guys out, I'll tell you about my problem. My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me about a month ago. To be honest I am still not over him. He broke up with me because according to him, I wasn't being honest. He told me that I was too controlling and that he needed the space. So we broke up. I was completely devastated because I couldn't seem to get a solid grasp of those things that supposedly tore us. None of those reasons seemed concrete and they sounded more like very lame excuses to me. I've given him my everything he could ask for a girl (yes including THAT). He was my best friend and I don't know how to live without him. He knows my sercrets as well every inch of me. Everything just happened so fast. Still can remember two months ago, during our 2nd year anniversary. And now, I am torn apart. However, last week, I was at school for enrollment. He was there and we talked casually. I was really trying my best not to cry. We didn't mention anything that happened. We just spent the day together and ended up in a motel that night. You should know what happened next. The next day, a girl friend of mine told me that she overheard him and his friend talking. Apparently my ex was telling this friend of his how satisfied he was and that he really had no intention to reconcile with me. He only did it so he could have sex with me. Numbness was the only thing I felt at that moment. Akala ko kami na ulit hindi pala. My year started with a bang indeed.
in your situation, as your friend overheard such thing, i think you have to realize that he is not meant for you and he doesnt deserve you and you doesnt deserve you to be treated by that. Lesson learned, move on. it's not that simple, but inch by inch YOU CAN jean, |
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Post by BloodRush on Jan 24, 2007 16:03:48 GMT 7
Lesson learned, move on. it's not that simple, but inch by inch YOU CAN jean. Yeah... time heals... It's really hard at first. That is why you have to take steps one at a time. Hmm... you can't exactly jump into a new relationship after this one, can you? Chear up! You can do it! |
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Post by ecols on Jan 24, 2007 19:47:17 GMT 7
Hello everyone. I am so glad there's actually a forum for us AMAers. I found this forums and I ...... My year started with a bang indeed.
in your situation, as your friend overheard such thing, i think you have to realize that he is not meant for you and he doesnt deserve you and you doesnt deserve you to be treated by that. Lesson learned, move on. it's not that simple, but inch by inch YOU CAN jean,OT: and now we see here is a different side of my friend frack O.o frack: paps kaw ba yan? O.o |
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Post by frack on Jan 25, 2007 8:47:43 GMT 7
but i think it's better to fall to your own decision than to fall to anyones advice, for you to be able to learn by yourself....
in your situation, as your friend overheard such thing, i think you have to realize that he is not meant for you and he doesnt deserve you and you doesnt deserve you to be treated by that. Lesson learned, move on. it's not that simple, but inch by inch YOU CAN jean, OT: and now we see here is a different side of my friend frack O.o frack: paps kaw ba yan? O.o |
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Kidz these days.... wahahahahaha....
. Then when the round begins I scream out loud in a very very very very gay way and spin the joystick like a twister ravaging the lands of bicol and slam the buttns randomly as if it's Mars being hit by meteors. Then I scream louder and people will surely start looking. MAKE SURE you do this with a friend who will say something like "Naku may nababaliw dito". And if you win (maybe cuz you pull off some insane air combos unintentionally), you laugh louder and stick ur tongue out 
and kiss the first person who comes within a meter radius 
. This is so fun you should do this while eating donuts whole 
